Children’s birthday celebrations can be tricky, especially when they enter their teenage years, where social dynamics and emotions can run high.
In this case, OP’s daughter hosted a sleepover for her birthday, and one guest—a spoiled girl—acted rudely throughout the night, even criticizing the gifts. Later, OP discovered text messages where the girl insulted the party and gifts. Feeling disrespected, OP asked the girl to leave. Though the girl’s mom apologized and asked for her to stay, OP stood firm, believing it was best for her to go. OP’s wife, however, felt he overreacted, while OP believed he was teaching the girl a valuable lesson about respect.
Scroll down below to read the story in OP’s own words.
1. OP wonders if they were wrong to ask a rude guest to leave their daughter’s birthday sleepover after her disrespectful behavior.
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2. OP hosted a sleepover for his daughter’s birthday. One guest, displaying a spoiled attitude, entered without acknowledging them, absorbed in her phone.
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3. The girl remained glued to her phone all night. OP initially thought she might be shy, but his daughter saw her as a “super cool” friend.
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4. During gift opening, the spoiled guest made comments on each present. OP and his wife pooled resources to gift her an iPhone 7.
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5. The spoiled guest scoffed at receiving an iPhone 7. Later, OP’s daughter seemed upset, wishing for the newest iPhone, which was unusual for her.
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6. OP checked their daughter’s phone and found texts from SB mocking the party and the iPhone 7 gift.
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7. OP observed SB’s disrespectful comments about the party and gifts, indicating a desire to leave, prompting OP to ask SB to call her mom to leave.
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8. At 1 AM, OP discreetly asked SB to leave, citing her expressed desire to go home. OP accompanied SB downstairs and requested she call her mom.
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9. OP discussed with SB’s mom, who apologized and suggested SB stay. After consideration, OP felt SB’s presence would be awkward and asked them to leave.
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10. OP’s wife disagreed, suggesting he should’ve talked to SB first. However, OP believes he taught a necessary lesson to prioritize his daughter’s birthday. AITA?
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11. You prioritized your daughter’s special day, nothing wrong with that.
12. SB’s behavior was disrespectful, you were right to address it.
13. NTA, your responsibility was to ensure your daughter had a great birthday, and you did just that.
14. YTA for embarrassing SB in front of your daughter and her friends, could have found a more tactful solution.
15. NTA, OP prioritized your daughter’s happiness over a disrespectful guest.
16. Both OP and SB exhibited poor behavior, leading to an uncomfortable situation for everyone involved.
17. ESH – SB’s behavior was rude, but kicking her out abruptly was an extreme reaction.
18. NTA, your responsibility was to ensure your daughter had a great birthday, and you did just that.
19. The issue could have been addressed calmly.
20. Protecting your daughter’s happiness on her birthday was the right move.
Now, OP is left wondering if he overstepped. What do you think—was OP justified in his actions, or did he overreact? Share your thoughts!
